The mother-in-law who can’t accept her son’s girlfriend has a disability

by yoyo - 2016.05.12
The mother-in-law who can’t accept her son’s girlfriend has a disability
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I've got serious problems with my boyfriend's family. They don't want him to be with me because I have a disability. How can we make them understand that this situation doesn't scare us because we love each other?

Dear Anna, first of all remember that parents are always worried about their child's relationships. They want to know the person who their child wants to be with and who will support them in their journey through life. If this person has a disability, that scares them, especially because it's seen as fragility, the realm of old age. Meanwhile, the parents of children with disabilities want someone to take care of their child completely, with the main priority being that they need help. These are different views but they have one thing in common. Both forget that you can only discover new points of view and new ways of doing things by putting yourself outside the mechanical routine of gestures, movements and the obvious. For the couple, a difference can also create something additional, not pejorative. The old man's stick can become a crutch or a zimmer frame. You're not just made of bone and muscles, but strength, determination, so apply a 'readymade' attitude to disability. What are we talking about? What by definition is considered a common everyday object (such as a coat hanger, a bottle rack, a urinal, etc.) can be placed by an artist in a different position or context, and is transformed into a work of art. Try to make them understand what they cannot see because they are probably closed-minded, so show them how to look for something else. Think of yourself as an artist and began to compose your 'readymade' piece of art.

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